I talk about loving the skin you’re in and accepting your flaws a lot, and most of the time, I believe it. But not always. We can all admit that the pressure to have to look good is real. And women tend to be hit the hardest. The beauty market thrives off selling us the lie that we’re not pretty enough, and it’s a lie that we so easily buy. I’ve found it's a lot easier to conform to beauty standards but harder to arrive at a point of self-acceptance.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who imagined my boo would stand outside my window with a radio playing my favourite songs, write me love letters and we’d ride away in the sunset somewhere happily ever after. And can you blame me? We’ve bought a fantasy sold to us through most love songs, romance novels and romcoms. Whilst the romantic in me will never die, I’ve learnt that there is a big difference between having high standards and unreasonable expectations.

Are black women subconsciously taught to disappreciate our natural aesthetic? A look at the natural hair movement and Western beauty standards.

Can we be 'somebody's' whilst being 'somebodies?'. Is it overly ambitious to aspire to want to be successful in our careers, whilst being good partners, wives or great mums? (when the time comes). I’ve come across several people who believe that as a woman, you have to choose: you can either be a good partner or a successful career woman, but you can’t be both...